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This morning after our usual Sunday routine, I decided we’d gotten in a rut. A routine routine.
Are you in a rut? What do you think the difference between habit and rut is?
Habit has the sound of discipline while rut has the sound of being stuck. The dictionary defines habit as a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up. Given that definition of habit I don’t believe exercise is ever a habit for me.
Rut is defined as a habit or pattern of behavior that has become dull and unproductive but is hard to change. My ruts are where the problem comes in for me, especially with social media.
Did you ever play fruit basket turn over? No? Well here’s how it goes (don’t worry this is all connected—you’ll see). If there are eight people at a party you have eight chairs or seats available. Then your grandmother (or whoever) says, “Justin trade places with Sally.” They do so. “Now Sally trade places with Dan.” They do so. “Now…fruit basket turn over,” and she removes a chair and all chaos breaks loose. You had to change seats and make certain you weren’t sitting in the one you were in before. One person was always left standing without a seat (usually me since I was the youngest). It was very heart thumping and fun.
You had to change seats. Sometimes we get into ruts that aren’t helpful to our goals. I suppose I would define a rut not so much a bad habit but a habit that is no longer producing the results you originally intended. In that regard, a habit can become a rut. Let’s say your husband buys you a dozen red roses and a box of dark chocolates for your anniversary. The first few years you think it’s sweet. In ten more years you might decide he has no imagination or thoughtfulness. In another thirty years you might learn to appreciate his consistency. So you’d go from habit to rut back to habit.
Life is a series of habits. Habits are the small things. It’s the small things make life enjoyable; walking with your single neighbor at five in the morning because being single can be lonely, opening the car door for your wife, bringing coffee to your husband each morning, calling your grown daughter every Monday, getting up at four in the morning to write before heading off to work.
Are you in a rut or do you have habits that create the life you want?
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