As we emerge from the pandemic you might be hesitating to go back to your old life. I am. I am looking at relationships and deciding which friends are truly friends. I’m social by nature but have few people I call friends, the rest I probably classify as members of a group I socialize with.
The pandemic has presented us with a unique opportunity to review our lives. You can give up activities you were doing that you don’t wish to do anymore. You can start doing what you have only dreamed of doing. You can quit socializing with people who make you feel bad about yourself or who are toxic.
Is this friendship healthy? Does this organization support my belief system? Is this community healthy and supportive? Are these people with whom I want to spend time with or am I stressed out every time I am with them?
I’m young at being old but I’ve enjoyed learning how to Instagram and enjoyed the support of the writing community. You see the same behaviors on Instagram as you do in life: people who follow you and then unfollow you to build their own status. Maybe social climbing is built in to humans. If so, it’s an unpleasant aspect of humanity.
The close friends I have are treasured the more for their steadfastness and acceptance when you go through something stressful like the pandemic. Sharing a pot of tea with good friends is nurturing and helps to support you. Getting on Instagram and receiving support from other writers who have struggled helps. We get to decide who remains in our life, who we engage with; it is our choice if we choose to bind with toxic people or move on to friendships that are fulfilling.
Can't eat peaches because of the fuzz, likes dogs and people in that order.